Archive | April, 2019

Not the SWERFS again…

15 Apr

This article right here elicited a major cringe from me. Here’s why. Up front: I used to be a sex worker.

“We must be clear that the sexualisation of women places men in a position of superiority and impedes class struggle”

You know what, if I wanna sell sex, I am entitled to do so regardless of how others may feel about it. Also, customers are always in a position of superiority because they decide whether the business (person) survives or not – and men are the main customers of sex workers.

As a former sex worker, it was my choice and my right to elevate men to a “superior” position aka customers on which I depended for my money – just as any other freelancer, or employee, actually.

And while certainly counterintuitive, as a feminist I MUST support a woman’s right to act in denigrating and misogynist pornographic productions if that is her choice, be it for money or because she actually likes it that way (yes, those women exist and their preference is valid and they GET TO take it to screen for cash).

Sex trafficking, coerced sex work, and child prostitution should be prosecuted more aggressively, and I say kill the pimps and the clients. But sex work in and of itself, needs to be every sex worker’s free and legalized choice.

“But Marxist feminists are pressed to accept this sexualisation of ourselves and our bodies as empowering.”

To me, it was, thank you very much. I finally accepted myself as a woman rather than a lump of fat with female genitalia of undefined gender for lack of conformity. It was empowering as hell, and no third party has a right to get between me and that sense of empowerment.

Sex work also reduces a woman to her body no more than a football player is reduced to his legs, a surgeon to his hands, or a teacher to his brain. Liberal feminists are accused of centering feminism on the female body, but Marxist feminists also seem unable or unwilling to view sex work as the same commodification of parts of our bodies as any other line of work. As a phone monkey, I commodified my voice – so fucking what?

“Yet sex work is not work like any other. Liberal feminists seek to legitimise their arguments by claiming that sex is a commodity.

But it is not — sex is a means through which a commodity is consumed and the commodity being consumed is the woman’s body. Prostitution will always exist, they say. It is inevitable, they say.”

People not in the industry need to shut up about the industry because of garbage like this statement. The way of consumption doesn’t make sex any less of a commodity. Who gets to decide whether sex or the body is the commodity? I’ll tell you: the sex worker and absolutely nobody else. How is it different from massage? Is it also evil to consume a massage therapist’s hands? Or is the massage the commodity?

“This provides men with the right to the sexual use of a woman and her body, validating the sexual objectification of women and male entitlement.”

Yeah well, that is how a transaction works. You offer something, the other person pays for it and thereby buys the right to use it within the agreed upon terms. Shocker!

“This distorted idea perpetuates the myth that women somehow have “agency” and “choice” over their own bodies in an industry run overwhelmingly by men.”

Is it a myth though? Maybe where the author is from. My stint in sex work was a choice, it was my idea because I wanted money for a trip to Japan and not die a geriatric virgin. Some feminists need to stop depicting us women as cattle. Yes, we are disadvantaged, yes, this is still a man’s world, yes, sexism and rape culture exists, BUT WE ARE STILL PEOPLE CAPABLE OF FREE WILL.

“This often happens by force in the widespread instances of trafficking that prop up the industry. Should we adhere to calls for the decriminalisation of prostitution just because a minority of women feel “empowered’’ in their attempts to “reclaim” this industry?”

Often, not always. Also, yes, decriminalize it, because then pimps have less leeway. Also, speak for your own damn country. It is decriminalized in many places, and it works. Netherlands, anyone?

“This perspective does not resonate with the many horrors faced by women in this trade every day. Calls for decriminalisation are damaging and legitimise the abuse of women.”

Guess what, it was horrible to cry myself to sleep with joint pain after a day of wiping other people’s piss for minimum wage, but nobody is throwing a pity party for cleaners! And there is no abuse in the VERY COMMON scenario where a woman chooses sex work and the average customer sticks to her terms. I had quite a few customers in those 3 years. Most by far were respectful and far from abusive.

“Those who seek to decriminalise this industry ignore the way in which the sex trade is structured through capitalist exploitation, poverty and women’s oppression. The only group that will benefit from this is pimps.”

Wrong. By experience, women who can openly and safely work in this industry, are not as vulnerable to pimps as those who don’t have any authority to turn to. There were far fewer pimps in the Antwerp-based Villa Tinto brothel than elsewhere. What did VT offer? On-site cop shop and doctor, hi-tech safety measures, and rules for all to adhere to. The sex workers there were registered with the cop shop and protected by the latter. The only cost? Daily room rent of €60. Sooo who’s being exploited there? The only non-sex worker staff I saw there, was an old woman and an MTF trans lady working as receptionist, not exactly people who come in and rape you on your coffee break.  You know what’s great for pimps? Helpless, lone street girls who are secretive about their job and have nobody watching out for them. Put them in a legal, open brothel where the cops and the municipality have an eye on them, what pimp is gonna go there?

“Socialists should be assisting and supporting women to exit the sex trade and punish those who drive the demand for it.”

Punish sex workers for choosing $250 an hour over $8 an hour, I see. How very feminist.

“The Nordic model does exactly as is set out above. It decriminalises those who are prostituted, provides vital services to help people exit the industry and makes buying people for sex a criminal offence. That way, we attack the problem at its root by reducing demand.”

So you decriminalize the fish, but drain the water, I see. How very feminist. Go on, drive my customers away so I have to go back to wiping piss for minimum wage, how very fucking feminist and supportive.

“Pornography, meanwhile, was specifically designed by and for the male fantasy, ignoring women as human beings altogether.”

Bla bla bla, so don’t sign up for a role and let those who wanna, make money with it.

“Porn is often violent and extreme and the language used in porn titles is dehumanising. A quick scan of Pornhub will show titles such as: “brutalised,” “hammered,” “destroyed,” “punished” etc.”

So is wrestling. Boo fucking hoo.

“There is no such thing as “feminist porn” — the concept of commodifying sex is fundamentally capitalist and unethical and this is regardless of how diverse the cast is or how well the actors are treated.”

Stop making capitalism a gender thing. Every industry is capitalist. Smartphones, books, clothes, pets, OMG SO ANTIFEMINIST

“As long as men can see women having sex on camera at the click of a button, we cannot hope to tackle male entitlement to women in wider society.”

Women also enjoy porn, get with the program.

“The view of any human being as a means of production or a commodity is fundamentally anti-communist and completely ignores the resistance to women’s exploitation which is central to communist thought.”

And who says communism is the way to go? And why single out sex work when any person in any job is a means of production directly or indirectly? I’m a dog breeder, I produce dogs and am a means of dog production, am I harming myself or womanhood with it? LOL!

“A woman’s genitals are not a means of production capable of being seized.”

But a footballer’s legs are? K. You know what, let every individual woman decide what her genitalIA are.

“and forge towards human emancipation.”

I did that when I decided to make €250 an hour getting laid to get Kubozuka’s autograph.

“the struggle for equal pay for equal work,”

As a sex worker, I got MORE pay for LESS work than most men 😂

And have you ever thought communism through? Abolishing all private property, and everything belonging to everyone, means I get to cuddle my cat now, and a hungry person gets to eat him later. I can’t walk through the bathroom of the house my mother bought with her hard-earned money, because 2 dozen strangers are lying on the floor. Hell no, keep private property private. Buy your own shit. Can’t? Tough, life ain’t fair. Nobody can have everything. A functioning socialist state like Germany, where necessities are accessible to all, should do.

And my body is indeed my private property, to commodify or keep to myself AS I PLEASE – that is feminism.

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